Summer Dawn My latest grandchild
She was Born
at 8.05am
Weighing
7lb3oz & was
52cm’s long just like her
Aunty Tasha
didn’t really want any visitors on Thursday. I sent Kathy and Michael some balloons instead of flowers which was a surprise for Kathy.
Life
Do
you have a good life? Do you realise life is what you make it, sometimes I hear
people complain that their life is not good and things are always going wrong
for them or that they feel they are being unfairly treated by love ones.
However I feel that if you look at things from someone else’s view point you
may realise that they feel the way they do because you are forever complaining
that life keeps dealing you a shit hand. So stop complaining and take a deep
breath tell yourself you are a good person and have a loving family who love
you warts and all, even if they do not always like the things you do or the way
you act. For you to feel positive and get a high out of life you need think
positive be loving and be responsible for your own screw ups, remember we all
screw up at some point just most of us don’t dwell on it and do not blame
anyone else. NO sister this is not directed at you but YES I was thinking about
you when I started to write this.
Sister’s
Written by Heather Lanesbury
This was written by my niece
Heather about her relationship with her sister Kirsty I loved it so thought I
would share it.
The story of two very
different sisters: One is here, one lives there. One is a little taller than the other.
Two different colours of hair, two different
outlooks on life, two very different views from their windows. Both have different tomorrows ahead....
Each is unique in so many
ways. Each has her own story, with all the busy things going on in the present.
Each has different work to do and different demands on the day. Each has a
separate destination and a different path to get there. But...............
For all the things that
might be different and unique about them…….These two sisters will always share
so much. They will always be the best of family and friends, entwined together,
through all the days of their lives....
Their love will always be
very special: gentle and joyful when it can be, strong and giving when it needs
to be, reminding them, no matter how different their stories turn out..... They
share the incredibly precious gift of being "sisters". And when you
think of some of the best things this world has to offer, a blessing like that
is really...... What it's all about.
The
last 6 months has seen me do a bit of travelling starting with a trip to New
Zealand’s North Island last November, this was a surprise for me from Tim for
my 50th birthday. He wasn’t going to tell me till my birthday but as
it turned out he couldn’t contain himself and ended up telling me in October.
Anyway I loved the holiday we had a great time it was one of the best holidays
I have had in a long time.
Then
in April Tim & I went away with Jessica and Leo first we went to
Wellington……….yes Wellington but the Wellington in NZ but the place out near
Dubbo and visited the Wellington Caves and have to say WOW what great caves
well worth the visit. We then went on to Dubbo where we visited the Old Goal
first then onto the caravan park for the night followed by a trip to the zoo
the following day. We all had a great time we spent 5 ½ hours at the zoo before
heading home but for some reason Tim thought it would be good to come home via
Bathurst although we ended up staying at Orange as he was buggered by the time
we got to Orange.
Little Leo
As everyone knows my
little Leo started school this year and I can’t say it got off to the best
start, but things are improving for him and Jessica. He is on medication now to
help control his behaviour and we have no problem with him taking the
medication which was a worry for both his mum and me. During this year I am endeavoring to reduce
the amount of nights he stays with me and papa, I am also trying to make time
for Blain to come over but Blain doesn’t really want to come over for the night
as often as Leo he likes to come for a visit but then wants to go home for the
night. This I believe is because after a while he gets bored here as he isn’t
like Leo and doesn’t want to just sit around watching cartoons for hours he prefers
to play his Xbox. I know that Natasha doesn’t always want him to sit around
playing his Xbox but she is the one who bought him one and she is the mother
and when he is there if she doesn’t want him playing the Xbox then she should
be finding him other things to do. I
don’t know how often he goes outside to play when he is with his parents but
when he is here he likes to play outside for ages it is when he has to come
inside that he wants to go home. In fact
the last time he was here he was surprised that I said he could go and play
with some of the other kids out the front. I love having my grandchildren here
but only if they want to be here. Speaking of wanting to be here lately Leo has
been crying and not wanting to stay and I have told Jessica if he is going to
get that upset then I do not want to force him to stay.
YOU’RE
WELCOME or OPEN DOOR/HOUSE
I
have some really generous daughters they have opened their house to others
allowing this friend or another to come and stay with them while they looked
for their own place. I do not know how they do it I don’t think I would be able
to do it myself, sharing your home with friends can really test a friendship in
my opinion. Sometimes those staying with you may forget that it is your home
they are in and act like it is their home and yes you may want your friend to
feel at home but where do you draw the line. This can be worst if the friend
doesn’t have children and you do, as children are loud, ask a million questions
can be demanding, like to slam doors, run up and down stairs and may not always
remember to flush…………then there is the subject of discipline do you allow those
staying with you to discipline your child or not and if they do so without your
permission what do you do.
Many
friendships have not withstood the house sharing experience now we all know
that when it comes to friends I have none so this is not a problem I would
face………………..lol For all those who read this and think but you did do this
Jo-Anne yes you are right I did do, would I do it again I don’t think so, was
it a bad experience when I did it, not really.
LIVING WITH PARENTS AGAIN
I
am 50yrs old as everyone knows and I can tell you that I haven’t lived with my
parents since I was 21 and I would not like to do it again, not because I have
any problem with my parents but because as not only an adult but a middle aged
woman I have become set in my ways. Also mum and dad are set in their ways and
it isn’t easy for adult children to live with their parent, just look at Sue
she tried it and it failed not because mum and dad are impossible to live with
or that she is impossible to live with but because in my opinion they are all
adults set in their ways. Sue being the “child” would end up expecting the
“parents” to do things for her to take care of her if you will and Sue may say
that wasn’t so I don’t know but I do know it was how mum felt.
Also
when you are an adult you have your own mind and opinions that such that may
not be the same as your parents which could cause clashes between you which is why I think it is the norm for
children to grow up leave home and make their own way in the world.
However
that said it is bloody hard now days for so many people to be out on their own,
finding an affordable rental property can be bloody hard, it can be harder
still when you have a bad rental history or if you are trying to survive on a
Centrelink payment like Sue is. The poor woman gets a pittance amount from
Centrelink really not enough to survive on in fact many rental places would
take up most of her money for rent which is why it is so bloody hard for her to
get somewhere.
HOMELESS
I
am lucky I have never been homeless, I have never felt like I had nowhere to go
or no one I could count on but some
members of my family are not so lucky such as my sister Sue and her daughter
Kelli……………………..Sue has been staying with mum and dad again because she cannot
find somewhere to live and she has been looking and she has been applying for
places but because she is only on a Centrelink payment she keeps getting
rejected which is just so unfair and wrong.
Kelli
and Jono have been staying with Jessica but they have to move as her house
inspection is coming up and she needs them out by then and they also have had
one thing after another go wrong eating into their savings and such and both
are faced with being homeless. It is just so wrong that it is so hard to find a
place to live. Of course it isn’t just Kelli & Jono they have their two
boys as well Blain and Daemon.
I
have asked Tim if Kelli & Daemon could come here but he doesn’t really want
anyone but him and me living here now as he is use to how the house feels with
just him and me in it.
MOVEING HOME
From
being homeless to moving home, well not exactly as I am talking about a
different person, this time it is Kathy-Lee and family yes my eldest daughter
is moving house. Michael’s parents have bought a house in Maryland for them so
they will be moving at the end of the month, Kathy said it had something to do
with the fact his parents don’t like the area of Windale they are living in and
wanted to help them out. Of course Kathy & Michael will be the ones paying
the mortgage. I have not seen the new house although Tim has taken a drive out
to Maryland to have a look at the place, he said it has really step driveway
which I had heard Kathy say before and there is supposed to be a park not far
from the house.
Because
they are now going to be buying a house Kathy has increased her hours at work
and will now be working 3 days a week Wednesday, Thursday and Friday and I will
be watching Summer on Wednesday and Thursday for her and Natasha & Jenny
(Michael’s mum) will take turns watching her of Fridays but I have said if
Kathy is ever short of a baby sitter on Friday I will of course take her.
I
may not be good for much but I can watch children, in fact while they are
moving I will watch the girls for them as that is about all I am good for.
However I think that is a big help as not having children under foot while
moving house is a good thing.
GROWING FAMILY
Now
incase people haven’t realised because they have been living under a
rock……………………..our family is forever growing mum and dad now have 5 children, 17
grandchildren and 9 great grandchildren who would have thought our family would
get so large………………….me and mum have spoken at times about how large my nana’s
family is but we are not sure. We do know that she has 15 grandchildren but no
idea how many great grandchildren let alone great great grandchildren but it
must be a bloody lot.
FOLLOWING IN HER FATHER’S STEPS
Who
you wonder, well Jessica that is who, she has recently got her D A which means
Driver’s Authority so she can now drive passenger carrying vehicles with up to
`12 passengers such as mini buses and next she wants to upgrade her licence so
she can become a bus driver like her dad.
I
can tell you this has made her dad so proud and he has even managed to get
approval to teach her how to drive a bus using one of the buses at work. He has also sort out who could sign off on
her ability to drive a bus, in some ways he has been a bit pushy with her but
it is only because he is so proud and excited about her becoming a bus driver.
Jessica
is the daughter less like Tim well I think so, I feel she is more like me then
her dad, Natasha is the daughter most like her dad and Kathy well she is a
mixture of both of us. Although Jessica and Tim can and do clash at times but
then so does Natasha and Tim, I am the one who clashes with Kathy-Lee.
CHANGING JOBS
Recently
my sister in-law Leigh decided she had, had enough of the problems at work and
quit so now she is looking for a new job. I don’t think she will have much
trouble finding a different job a person has to be happy at work if you find
yourself feeling stressed and feeling like someone is out to cause trouble for
you then you don’t need to be there.
Tim
went through that when he was at Charlestown Canvas years ago and I ended up
telling him to just quit it wasn’t worth the stress the job was causing him as
he would come home stressed and in a mood.
CLOSING
Ok
I will end this newsletter here it has taken me a while to write it but I doubt
anyone cares about that I don’t even know if anyone cares if I write a
newsletter or not but hell I write it for me and the rest of you are just
blessed to be able to read it…………………….lol
