My Christmas

 

The last post I will write for 2020 is here.

Christmas has been and gone for 2020 and it went off with fizzle no bang here. I have not been able to get into the festive mood this year. I was late getting decorations up and slack with my Christmas cards. I did manage to send out around 50 something cards.

Christmas Day was different instead of Jess & Leo coming here and open presents, Tim & I went over to here house a whole 25 metres or 82 feet away. I rode the scooter over and Tasha walked over, so it was noisy when Kathy rang and I felt that Kathy sounded a tad left out.

After presents opened Tim got ready for work and I got dressed to go over to Mum's for lunch. My brother Dave picked me up and drove me to Mum's.

There was a good turn up with Dave & Leigh with their girls as well as Sandy & Ed and their girls along with Sue & Les (her man), Dawson and of course Mun and me.

Lunch was alright just not the same, after lunch Sandy drove me home.

Boxing Day was held here and all 3 daughters and 4 grandchildren along with Kathy's fiance Michael. Tim bought KFC for lunch and Kathy made a potato bake. I bought a lemon meringue roulade for desert and Kathy had to say she doesn't like lemon meringue oh well I love it.

Not many photos taken because I am unable to take them.

It is a good thing that we don't do anything for NYE as so much is cancelled.

Merry Christmas

 

MERRY CHRISTMAS

2020 WAS A HARD YEAR

2021 MUST BE BETTER

UNLESS IT'S WORSE...........

JUST SAYING

THIS YEAR HAS SEEN ME DETERIORATE

SO I AM PLANNING TO SEE ANOTHER

NEUROLOGIST IN 2021,, HOPEFULLY

TIM WILL BE 60 IN JANUARY

MUM WILL BE 81 IN JANUARY

I HAVE MY DAUGHTERS & TIM FOR

PHYSICAL SUPPORT AND THE WHOLE

FAMILY FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT.

Merry Christmas

 

MERRY CHRISTMAS

2020 WAS A HARD YEAR

2021 MUST BE BETTER

UNLESS IT'S WORSE...........

JUST SAYING

THIS YEAR HAS SEEN ME DETERIORATE

SO I AM PLANNING TO SEE ANOTHER

NEUROLOGIST IN 2021,, HOPEFULLY

TIM WILL BE 60 IN JANUARY

MUM WILL BE 81 IN JANUARY

I HAVE MY DAUGHTERS & TIM FOR

PHYSICAL SUPPORT AND THE WHOLE

FAMILY FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT.

Happy Birthday

 

Good afternoon, yesterday I had a doctor's appointment and for some reason I never got around to doing a post and today I am restless and not with it but I am writing this.

On the 28^th October 1969 my little sister Susan Denise was born she is the third child with two older sisters and two younger siblings.

Sue is very much like me in many ways and as different as can be in others.

Sue has been married twice divorced once ad widowed the second time around. She has 4 children and 7 grandchildren who she loves and adores naturally.

I am hoping she has a great day and feels the love from her family as well as their appreciation.

My Mother's Words

  TAKE THIS CHILD

Take this child just for a loan

I'll lend you for a little time

a child of mine, he said for you

to love while they live and mourn

when they die.

It may be six or seven weeks, months or years

Or twenty two or three or longer still.

Will you to I call them back take care of them for me,

They will bring their charms to gladden your heart and

should their stay be brief, you'll have their lovely memories.

As solace for your grief.

I cannot promise they will stay since all from earth return,

but there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn

I've looked the wild world over in my search for teaches true and

from the throngs that crowds lives lanes , I have selected you.

Now will you give this child all your love, nor think the labour vain, nor hate me when I come to call and take the child back again.

I fancied that you have heard them say, dear Lord thy will be done. For all the joy the child shall bring the risk of grief will run.

Will shelter them while their here and the happiness they bring, forever grateful for their stay.

But should the angels call for the child, much sooner then planned, you'll brave the bitter grief that comes, and try to understand and maybe someday we will.

THE ABOVE WAS WRITTEN BY MY MUM IN THE LATE 80'S AFTER THE DEATH OF MY COUSIN 

On this day

 Good morning here we are at the 22^nd day of September, 36yrs ago on this day I went from being a Jenkins to a Meadows.

I meet Tim on the 9^th June 1983 in my parents lounge-room this was because we met through a dating agency. I knew by our next date that he was the man for me.

In September that year he tells me ha had invited a few mates to our engagement party. I looked at him and said “what” you haven't even asked me to marry you., he laughed took my hands and said but you will won't you. My reply was not the point but of course I will.

Our engagement party was paired with my 21^st and held at my parents place, it was a good night ending around 3 or 4am although Tim crashed in the back of his panel van around midnight, after he fell asleep on the toilet. The last to leave were Tim's mates and a couple of gatecrashes as in neighbours from up the road.

We married on the 22^nd September 1984 in St Alban's church in front of around 100 guests. The reception was held in the church hall back then my mum was involved with the church so we got a good deal.

I wore a dress that had been my aunt's wedding dress, I was never thrilled with the dress but said nothing, I also had no say in the wedding care which was a traditional fruit cake, I do not eat fruit cake.

I have wanted to renew my vows for many years but Tim has no interest in doing so.

Photo Day

 

By My Mum

 

Sisters

 Hello world, well it's Thursday so it is time for a poem as someone pointed out last week I haven't said what site I find these poems well I will fix that today by adding the site to the post. It is: https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/why-i-love-my-sister

The Importance of a Sister

BY: Shiv Sharma

A sister is someone who loves you from the heart.

No matter how much you argue, you cannot be drawn apart.
She is a joy that cannot be taken away.
Once she enters your life, she is there to stay.

A friend who helps you through difficult times,
Her comforting words are worth much more than dimes.
A partner who fills your life with laughs and smiles,
These memories last for miles and miles.

When she is by your side, the world is filled with life.
When she is not around, your days are full of strife.
A sister is a blessing who fills your heart with love.
She flies with you in life with the beauty of a dove.

A companion to whom you can express your feelings,
She doesn't let you get bored at family dealings.
Whether you are having your ups or downs,
She always helps you with a smile and never frowns.

With a sister, you cannot have a grudge.
She is as sweet as chocolate and as smooth as fudge.
Having a sister is not just a trend.
It is knowing you can always turn to her, your best friend.

Source:https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/why-i-love-my-sister

New Neighbours

 lHello everyone, as you are aware I do not post on Fridays but I am today posting nothing much but none of my posts are something much, just saying................

We are getting new neighbours looking straight out my front door you see a brick wall which is the wall of unit 15 and that's the unit getting new neighbours, this unit is opposite Natasha. The new occupants are single mother and her 12yr old son they swapped with the woman who was there also a single mother with a young daughter who has disabilities and need a home with a bath tub for her daughter.

They signed new leases yesterday and have been busy moving the last few days.

Of course our new neighbours are Jessica & Leo.

Most children grow up and move away from mum and dad which my did but now in their early 30 two of my girls have moved back to live in the same complex as mum & dad. Mum & Dad aka Me & Papa thrilled.

Daughter number one is a little envious but her life is going in a different and equally exciting path which I am unable to discuss here.

Hello everyone, as you are aware I do not post on Fridays but I am today posting nothing much but none of my posts are something much, just saying................

We are getting new neighbours looking straight out my front door you see a brick wall which is the wall of unit 15 and that's the unit getting new neighbours, this unit is opposite Natasha. The new occupants are single mother and her 12yr old son they swapped with the woman who was there also a single mother with a young daughter who has disabilities and need a home with a bath tub for her daughter.

They signed new leases yesterday and have been busy moving the last few days.

Of course our new neighbours are Jessica & Leo.

Most children grow up and move away from mum and dad which my did but now in their early 30 two of my girls have moved back to live in the same complex as mum & dad. Mum & Dad aka Me & Papa thrilled.

Daughter number one is a little envious but her life is going in a different and equally exciting path which I am unable to discuss here.

Photo Day

PHOTO OF MY DAD AS A CHILD WITH HIS FATHER ON HIS LEFT AND SOMEONE ELSE TO HIS RIGHT

Photo Day

NANA JAMES WITH THREE OF HER CHILDREN, DIANNE, RONNIE & MAVIS

Keys

Do you have adult children?

I do

Do they all have keys to your home?

Mine do

Can they let themselves in whenever they want?

Mine can

Take whatever they need when they need it and leave a note telling you so

Mine do

I have keys to my parents house have always done since I was given a key when I was 18, my brother and youngest sister also have keys but my other two sisters don't,why you ask well they left home before they were given keys.

Tim said when he was a teenager he had a key to his mum's house but when he left home his mum took the key back.

Photo Friday

  SANDRA & ED

Frustration

It must be hard not knowing what to when you see me crying and suffering with pain and frustration day in and day out, I know there is nothing anyone can do to relieve the pain.

Sometimes all I need is a hug and to hear you know how hard it I need nothing else.

Sometimes it is hard and depressing to hear someone sigh or see a roll of the eyes when I ask for help of some kind. I know no one means anything bad but it does make me feel like I am being a nuisance or a burden.

Yes it is hard for me struggling all day every day and I get it must be hard for everyone to know this and and not know what to do for the best. I have no answer for that.

If it was just the tremor that would be bad enough but it's everything else, like the pain in my right upper arm/shoulder area. This makes me cry in pain and frustration and there isn't a damn thing you can do.

Leo School Photo

LEO'S 2020 SCHOOL  PHOTO, WHICH HE HATES

For Dad

He is happy now...........................

Turning 80

My Mum is turning 80 on Thursday we are not doing anything just lunch with her children, however, as many extended family members care for her I thought I would remind you and you may like to send her a card. This would make her very happy.

Anyone need her address just ask.

My health update

I am slowly learning to live and accept my limitations there are more and more things that I have trouble doing. I have things that help me cope, as in not get as upset and depressed when things are not working and it's just not easy.

There are days when I struggle to prepare food to eat, some days I just like someone else to either prepare the even a simple sandwich at times is hard. I haven't tried to eat cereal in a long time and ya know I have been feeling like corn flakes lately. Last winter I tried having soup, that ended in tears and frustration.

I have taken to using a bath board when I shower as I find the heat of a shower causes me to become light headed and lose my balance. I prefer to have a bath but with water restrictions I think a shower is better as I use less water.

Getting dressed takes me ages three times as long as having someone assist me, this is because I break into a sweat often during the day and no it's not menopause that I went through 14yrs ago. So often I am all clammy and sticky, also this causes me to stink more. Some may think have a cool shower but I can do that and be sitting on the bed drying off and break into a sweat again.

I have to use a walker when I go out but only if I have a small amount of walking to do, if I have a lot of walking to do I need a wheelchair, or a motorised scooter.

I cannot drive so have to rely on someone to get me from point a to point b and home again, I have had a few episodes of confusion and loss of balance. So the girls do not want me to go shopping alone and honestly I think often they are right.

I used to love to read but find it hard to concentrate and can only manage a couple of pages at a time, it is so frustrating.

Then there are my bladder problems which is horrible and embarrassing but something I have to deal with.

Is it any wonder I feel depressed and like crying.